I think it’s great that you’re both aligned on not wanting to make a big deal out of certain anniversaries or holidays, even if my personal attitude is a bit different. I think the problem in relationships arises when one person doesn’t really care at all and the other person does care a lot about celebrations, and it can feel like the person who doesn’t care is putting on a show for the other person.
That being said, I do love that you found a fun way to make Valentine’s Day feel special to you both. I worked on a scrapbook and went to a science center with my boyfriend, and we picked up some flowers from a lady selling them by the side of the road on our drive back. It worked for us!
Yeah, I feel really lucky that Ryan and I have a similar attitude toward holidays and anniversaries. That can be a huge point of contention in a relationship if both people aren't on the same page. I definitely feel some societal pressure to make a big deal out of things like anniversaries, but at the end of the day it's really up to us to decide how we want to spend that occasion.
I'm glad you had a nice v-day as well! Sounds like a nice balance of going out and staying in.
I think it’s great that you’re both aligned on not wanting to make a big deal out of certain anniversaries or holidays, even if my personal attitude is a bit different. I think the problem in relationships arises when one person doesn’t really care at all and the other person does care a lot about celebrations, and it can feel like the person who doesn’t care is putting on a show for the other person.
That being said, I do love that you found a fun way to make Valentine’s Day feel special to you both. I worked on a scrapbook and went to a science center with my boyfriend, and we picked up some flowers from a lady selling them by the side of the road on our drive back. It worked for us!
Yeah, I feel really lucky that Ryan and I have a similar attitude toward holidays and anniversaries. That can be a huge point of contention in a relationship if both people aren't on the same page. I definitely feel some societal pressure to make a big deal out of things like anniversaries, but at the end of the day it's really up to us to decide how we want to spend that occasion.
I'm glad you had a nice v-day as well! Sounds like a nice balance of going out and staying in.